Robert de Montesquiou was often seen at Misia’s salons, her lodge in the theatre. He had been a habitué of Misia’s Thursday evening soirées in the Rue St. Florentin and carried the coffin of the vagabond poet, Paul Verlaine to his resting place. Misia and the count had mutual friends, he was a ‘poseur absolute’ who prefered to associate with celebrities at the time. They included Alphonse Daudet , Sarah Bernhardt, Gabriele d’Annunzio, Anna de Noailles, Marthe Bibesco, Luisa Casati (1881-1957). When Ballets Russes arrived in Paris he didn’t miss a single dress rehearsal. He was particularly excited and shouted words of adoration for ‘Cleopatre’ and for Ida Rubinstein. Afterwards he went backstage, where a triumphant Ida was holding court, he then asked Ida to accompany him to his Pavillon Rose in Neuilly and she agreed.
He was often shadowed by Marcel Proust, who used him as a model for the extravagant Baron de Chalrus. Montesquiou prefered company of young artistic men and appeared not to have affairs with women, although in 1876 he reportedly once slept with the great actress Sarah Bernhardt, after which he vomited for twenty-four hours, Bernhardt remained a great friend of his. His poetry was called untranslatable and was poorly received by critics at the time. He also wrote a play, essays, biographies and the verses found in the choral parts of Gabriel Fauré ‘s Pavane.